Wow, it’s been a LONG 36ish hours or so. Moving is no joke…I’ve never quite experienced a full-on move, to be honest, as when we bought our house, I moved from my mom’s house and didn’t have much stuff. Well, I have a LOT OF STUFF now, apparently. We didn’t even fit it all in the 14 footer I rented, and had to take THREE more car fulls afterwards. I do have to thank Pete SO much for all of his help. He was awesome, and so helpful throughout the day, never complained and even put together my stuff from IKEA (and is coming by tonight to finish the job!), and didn’t leave till after 10. It was nice, actually, to spend the day together and just talk like two friends – it wasn’t awkward, it wasn’t sad (though I did cry when I saw the house empty! just sort of hit me), it was normal and it felt like this is exactly where we should be, in life, and in our evolving relationship.
…we even talked about our dating/sexual lives post-marriage, which was a little interesting (I can just see half of you shaking your heads in awe, and the other half thinking “she’s sharing too much!”), but also felt completely normal. We talked about dating, we talked about what we both want in future relationships, we teased each other (me on his GF, him on boy #7), it was just funny.
…and speaking of boy #7 (yes, I realize this post is rambling, but I’m trying to cover a lot of bases I haven’t been able to in the last few days!) – Sunday was a fantastic evening!! He made me dinner (swordfish, veggies and whole grain pasta), we had wine (I tried ice wine for the first time – sweet, but good “dessert” wine), we watched a REALLY strange comedy (Sex and Death 101 – STRANGE but oddly intriguing!), and we um, had a bit of “fun” afterward…and I’m a lady, so I won’t share details, but I will say, he works out (a lot), and it shows, and he has a few tricks up his sleeve 
Hope to see him again soon, so he can see my new place!
And, on that note, I’ll end tonight’s blog as I am back to unpacking, organizing and getting myself situated. But I finally feel home.
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By the way, the fourth installment of my SinceMyDivorce interview has posted, and it’s super timely – all about selling the house and moving on. Give it a read – Mandy has some good words of advice, and thoughts on going through a similar situation.
September 30, 2009 at 12:37 am
Definitely glad it seems you are on the healing road…but I don’t know if I could handle a divorce…it would probably crush me.
September 30, 2009 at 12:58 am
you’d be surprised at the strength you never knew you had – if you ever had to go through divorce, that is. I always thought it would crush me too.
September 30, 2009 at 2:06 pm
Jolene – I think you and Pete are to be congratulated on successfully renegotiating your relationship. It isn’t easy to move from friends to lovers and then back to friends and it sounds like you’ve managed that. This world is too big and life is too short to live without friends.Enjoy unpacking!
Jessica – I never felt that divorce was a choice for me and I had never thought it would happen to me. However it turned out to be my only option to be healthy and happy. It was a very difficult, painful 15 months but I always had a mental image of what my life would be like when I was no longer married and that picture kept me going. And yes, now I feel I have found myself again and am happy and loving my life.
Mandy
September 30, 2009 at 9:22 pm
Thank you Mandy!! I don’t know how else to explain it, except to say that the whole evolution has been completely natural. And it gives me a sense of peace with everything. Couldn’t have asked for a better way to end things, to be honest. Thank you!!
September 30, 2009 at 8:00 pm
Congrats on the move and boy #7.
“A few tricks up his sleeve…”? You mean besides cooking, filling you full of wine, and watching a movie about sex?
Good luck!
September 30, 2009 at 9:22 pm
Haha – too funny – yes, those were some pretty good tricks to begin with, I agree!!
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