*bonus post tonight* – though when you keep reading, I ‘spose not quite a happy bonus.
Boy #9 ended things tonight
*sigh*
Apparently he met up with an old high school friend at the end of his vacation and he felt a connection he couldn’t get past, and wanted to be honest with me. He was very nice about it, and said he truly thought we were going somewhere but also (like me) believes that everything happens for a reason and God works in mysterious ways.
Way to use my words against me (insert slight smile here…), huh? I believe him, and appreciate the honesty since so many are not honest or just stop calling, never giving a reason.
I won’t lie, I am sad and let down. I liked him. I didn’t have feelings of love towards him, yet, thankfully, but I did really like him, and felt it was going somewhere, but I guess there’s something to be said for being guarded, in a sense too, huh? Maybe part of me didn’t let my guard down because I am afraid of getting hurt. I need to sleep on it, and revisit this post tomorrow…maybe I’ll add more, being more clear-headed than I feel right now.
And so it goes…onward, upward, it’s the year of ME, after all…right?
January 7, 2010 at 9:46 pm
I’m sorry friend. At least he was open and honest with you. Same with me and SB. You’re strong, you’re gonna be fine. Greece? We can go meet some Greek men!
January 8, 2010 at 6:29 am
Ouch. He gets points for honesty. On the bright side, now you now you can date. Maybe things will go better next time and you’ll find someone you do feel connected to.
Thinking of you!
January 8, 2010 at 8:30 am
thank you ladies! I am feeling better this morning, and I do still believe that everything does happen for a reason, and if that was what he needed to do, so be it. Much rather he do that than try to keep the other chick under wraps, anyway.
January 8, 2010 at 9:22 am
Sorry to hear that Jo. Oh well, it IS the year of YOU, go out and enjoy it!
January 8, 2010 at 9:24 am
Aww babe, I’m sorry. I agree, it’s nice that he was honest, but it still sucks! I guess that just means he wouldn’t have made it in this crew of ours
Hugs!
Nene
January 8, 2010 at 9:27 am
Thanks D and Nene…you’re the best. And Nene, yes, I guess he doesn’t make the cut for the super fab crew we have, huh?! Maybe you guys just need to find me a man that is worthy
January 8, 2010 at 11:34 am
Dating is pretty much for the birds. Sorry this one didn’t work out, but an honest guy is a good guy in my book. I’m glad we found each other’s blogs! I have been enjoying catching up on yours. I appreciate all the great links–will definitely be checking out your recommended blogs.
January 8, 2010 at 11:41 am
Thanks for visiting!! I’m glad you are enjoying mine as well
Dating is for the birds sometimes, isn’t it? I’ll dust myself off, it just tends to feel a little daunting sometimes too, but I guess that’s normal enough!!
January 8, 2010 at 12:10 pm
Honesty is very good.
Glad you’re able to see things a little clearer today. You never know, girl.
Now, have you been running yet?
January 8, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Thanks T – I am hanging in there today, and looking forward to finding some more prospects
It’s the year of why not? right? And no, I haven’t been running yet, but I WILL! I just need to get through this kickboxing certification first 
January 8, 2010 at 12:39 pm
I agree, 2010 is most definitely the year of YOU! If this wasn’t meant to be, there was still a reason you two met. You learned a lot, you had a great string of dates and, most of all, you had fun. Isn’t that what’s most important in this whole dating experience of yours? I mean, aside from finding a guy who is worthy of you, that is
January 8, 2010 at 4:49 pm
I’m sorry to hear about this but you want to hear the really encouraging thing? You are able to love! You are capable of feeling passion and affection for a man. You’re heart isn’t dead and it wasn’t killed from the divorce. So this didn’t turn out to be the love story of your lifetime. Instead, you got to stretch your love wings and give a practice fly again, and it went pretty well!
So I am sorry he decided to go another way, but I’ll bet you money he’ll miss you, and now you have proof that your heart is alive and well.
January 8, 2010 at 4:54 pm
Cindy, you rock, thank you so much for your different, yet so hopeful perspective. I needed that today!! You are right, I am not broken, and I am resilient! And, who knows, maybe he will miss me, but too little too late IMHO…
January 8, 2010 at 5:09 pm
Oh, I did not see that coming at all! (Just now catching up on my blogs, and what sad news to catch up on.) It sounded so promising. I’m so sorry to hear that.
At least you still have a great family and group of friends (live and online) and 22,000 blog hits, and they won’t leave you for some bimbo from high school.
Hey, what’s CSB been up to lately? He dump his GF yet?
hugs,
Snark
January 8, 2010 at 5:23 pm
And THIS is why I love my blog “family”! You guys have been awesome!! Snark, yeah, I know, sort of out of left field, but I’m pressing onward…only way to go but up, right?? CSB…yes, he’s still CSB and HG of H. I’ll see him tomorrow morning at spin…
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January 10, 2010 at 4:38 pm
I HATE when that happens. Sheesh. Reappearing ghosts from the past. At least he told you up front. I had a similar situation early in 2009, where the guy was corresponding with his Old Flame while he was developing a relationship for two months with me. Yeah. Not fun to hear about that after the time we spent together. Had I only known…you know how that goes. You can read my story if you like at my other blog (Welcome to CABsPlace) at this link: http://wp.me/ph6S5-85
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Wow, that was quite the story, thanks for sharing it with me!! So, to your point, I’m glad to know now, before I learn it later, behind my back or something ridiculous. So, you live, you learn, you move on, right?!
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