That’s right – this date almost didn’t happen – with boy #3 from OK Cupid (realize I didn’t “name” him yesterday!).
Why, you ask?
Because it took me a 2 1/2 drive to get there…when it should only take 20 mins, tops.
Why, you ask?
Primarily, traffic, and oh wait, a GPS that completely sucks apparently, or has a mind of it’s own. I knew generally where I was going, as I’d been to this particular spot on the water before, but relied on my GPS, since that’s how I roll (and I left the directions on my desk at work, great place for them…). So, I’m driving, I take a wrong turn, take another wrong turn, and it’s all downhill from there. Next thing I know, I’m crying, I’m frustrated, I suddenly feel as though “what am I doing? why am I bothering dating? is this frustration worth it?” when I wasn’t truly questioning those things, I was just super frustrated and felt like a total tool for being SO late for this date.
Finally talked to him, told him the situation and he was already on his way to find me – which, by the way, I found super cute and nice of him to do (considering at this point, I was already an HOUR late). Coincidentally as we were talking (and I was totally falling for the unexpected southern accent…he’s originally from just north of Dallas), he had pulled over on the side of the road and I found him, and we drove back to the place we were going for the night.
Thus why the date almost didn’t happen. I was thisclose to saying, forget it, let’s do this another time and crawling off into a hole for the night. But I’m really glad I didn’t.
The date went really well…at first, he was kind of untalkative and I instantly wondered if he wasn’t interested. He warmed up soon enough, though, and we talked about his job(s) (personal trainer, teaches group classes at his gym and works part-time at a non-profit rugby for kids group, and also plays rugby) and mine (meh. LOL), talked about our families (he has 2 sisters and 1 brother, they’re all 2 years apart) and life, generally.
I was wondering if it’d be an early night since I kinda killed half of it with my lateness, but he suggested we walk on the pier as the evening had turned beautiful. It was humid, but thunderstorms had cleared and all that remained were bright stars and a moonlit sky. Perfect summer evening.
We talked, about dating, about some of our own “bucket” list items and what we want to do this summer. Some things were similar, some were not, but they all sorta jived pretty well. We walked some more, and there were some quiet moments, but they were good ones, not awkward. It was relatively romantic, I must say, for a first date, but it didn’t feel very forced, rushed or awkward or anything, given that it was indeed a first date. And though I won’t go into major detail, there were a few kisses, and they were also “just right” – not too much, not too little, not over the top.
Let’s just say the night ended around midnight…waaay past my bedtime for a Tuesday night. (update: and he called me just as I was getting home to make sure I got there safely. Nice, right?!)
But worth it.
(We’ll see what happens next…we’ve talked about getting together again, but he’s got a busy schedule this week and is in NYC this weekend, so TBD on that.)
June 2, 2010 at 8:39 am
Awwww! I’m so glad it went well. Can’t wait to hear about the second date
June 2, 2010 at 8:44 am
Thank you! Glad it worked out, was a good evening
June 2, 2010 at 8:40 am
Ummm… I’m in love.
June 2, 2010 at 8:43 am
LOL! Hands off – just kidding
June 2, 2010 at 12:25 pm
…and everyone asks me why I want to move to Texas. Helllooooo…. I work in the oil industry (so I could still have a job!) and SEXY SOUTHERN BOYS!! What’s not to love?!!
June 2, 2010 at 1:09 pm
this is true – I must concur.
June 2, 2010 at 8:47 am
I’m loving the fact that he came to get you! He definitely gets points for that!
June 2, 2010 at 8:53 am
Totally! It was unexpected but very sweet of him. Oh, and he called me just as I got home to make sure I got in safely (just updated my blog to reflect that, forgot that small but good detail!)
June 2, 2010 at 10:15 am
That is a good sign. having been married for a long time now the number 1 priority with my wife is that very thing. Is she safe? We can figure out the rest.
June 2, 2010 at 10:26 am
Yes, I thought that was a very good sign!!
June 2, 2010 at 8:48 am
Oh wow, I would have been so frazzled. Good for you for going on with the date. Sounds like you had a great time!
June 2, 2010 at 8:54 am
Girl, frazzled is not even the word…I was a combination of crying, sweating and freaking out, blame it partially on mega PMS
June 2, 2010 at 9:48 am
What, no shout-out to your sis and brother-in-law for talking you off the ledge amidst total GPS fail??
I’m kidding – I’m so glad the date ended up going so well and think its SO damn cute that he came to find you. A good guy move if you ask me!
June 2, 2010 at 9:52 am
Yes, sis, i really should have given you a shout-out, you kept me sane, and Scott too. Kudos, I owe ya. Do you accept wine?
June 2, 2010 at 10:04 am
Nice. Just north of Dallas huh? That’s where I live!
I love me a good ole Southern boy.
June 2, 2010 at 10:32 am
Really? That’s awesome – I did immediately think of you when he told me he was from near Dallas
“OMG, I bet T would love that!)
June 2, 2010 at 12:21 pm
Could not agree more, you have not lived until you have been with or dated a southern boy, let alone a Texas boy….a whole different breed of men–albeit a fantastic breed. I think he is my favortite to date, JO, just based on what I have heard so far (and he obviously gets points for being from my neck of the woods:))
June 2, 2010 at 1:10 pm
Ha, thanks Miranda, I figured you too would love the southern boy…because I also thought of you last night when I heard his voice!
June 2, 2010 at 11:28 am
It sounds like such a sweet, romantic date!
June 2, 2010 at 12:01 pm
thank you, it was!
June 2, 2010 at 11:42 am
Love it, can’t wait to hear more. It sounds like something out of a Nicolas Sparks book.
June 2, 2010 at 12:01 pm
thanks friend
June 2, 2010 at 5:37 pm
Oh my! I’m totally doing my bouncing, hand clapping right now. That sounds like a damn good date, aside from the start:) So happy for you!
June 2, 2010 at 6:54 pm
Shannon, this is why I love you. I can totally see you doing the bouncy happy dance. So cute! His accent reminds me of yours, which I absolutely love.
June 2, 2010 at 7:58 pm
Haha! My damn twang! I’m pretty sure it was at its worse out in Vegas for some reason!
June 2, 2010 at 8:08 pm
Ha, I can hear you saying that! I LOVE the damn twang!
June 3, 2010 at 6:44 am
Sounds like it has potential. Give it a chance…
And Yay!
June 3, 2010 at 8:24 am
thanks Nicki – feels like potential, I agree…feeling good
June 3, 2010 at 6:19 pm
Whoo Hoo! Glad your date went well.It’s so great when that happens. My first date with Mr. P was perfect–you could hear everything just click into place. I met him through a friend via Facebook first, and we emailed and then called back and forth until he came to visit, so I guess you could say I did internet dating, lol! Hope this one is a good one!
June 3, 2010 at 6:55 pm
thank you so much!! Yes, it did go well, I’m diggin it..we’ll see what happens! Good sign re: Mr. P. perhaps for me then too
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