As I drove home this evening after another rewarding (but exhausting!) “baby duty” day with my sister Jen and niece Isabel, it struck me.
This weekend, two years ago, was the weekend my life turned upside down, when I officially knew my marriage was over. (the days leading into realizing this wasn’t just a fight, but the beginning of the end are a little hazy for me but if you read my blog series under “Some of my favorites” you can get all of the details on how it unfolded)
And on this quote Friday, there’s nothing better to fit what I’m feeling than Rascal Flatts’ “My Wish” in large part for these specifically:
I hope you never look back, but ya never forget,
All the ones who love you, in the place you left,
I hope you always forgive, and you never regret
I can, without a shadow of a doubt say that I will never look back at my marriage and wish I was still in it. I can, without a shadow of a doubt, know who loves me (and love them back), forgive and never regret. Why? Because at this point in my life, two years later, I firmly believe I am exactly where I’m meant to be. It feels so amazing, every time I reach one of these milestones and realizations that the little things melt away and the big things come to the forefront and I realize this is where I’m meant to be, without a shadow of a doubt.
And these lyrics are dead-on for what I feel – hell yeah, they are dead-on:
But more than anything, yeah, and more than anything,
My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.
It can’t get any better than that, can it?
To know you are loved, and to love back.
…and to know you are capable of love again.
To know that there are big dreams ahead, and a lot to be accomplished.
…and to know you’re capable of big things.
To know that above all else, there are no failures in life, just challenges that make you stronger.
“I hope you never look back, but you never forget.”
October 29, 2010 at 7:48 pm
wow I had a big step back last night talking to my ex about the kids. Things he said put me right back where I was a year and a half ago feeling like it was all my fault and I was a failure. I woke up this morning knowing I would never choose to be back there and I as in a better place with exciting things in my future. THIS is great. AMEN SISTER.
October 30, 2010 at 12:38 pm
Wow, such a revelation isn’t it? I am so glad you woke up with that in mind. Amen sister back atcha!!
October 29, 2010 at 7:57 pm
awh i love that song!
October 30, 2010 at 12:39 pm
So good isn’t it?! And it reminds me of doctor boy since we went to the Rascal Flatts together!
October 29, 2010 at 8:01 pm
I love this post girl. Isn’t it great when lyrics or poetry speaks so close to home.
October 30, 2010 at 12:40 pm
I love when that happens too! Just came across it last night and the words definitely spoke to me!
October 29, 2010 at 11:17 pm
I love this post, you’ve done a great job describing the importance of moving on, forgiving and never regretting experiences. Onwards and upwards, good things lie ahead!
October 30, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Thank you so much! I try to do that anyway because I’m a firm believer in never looking back or regretting but appreciating the past for all you learn.
October 30, 2010 at 12:26 pm
i hope i can get back to a place where i wish good things for my ex. i really do. he meant too much to me for too long for things to stay the way they are now. it’s not right. as great as things are in my life right now, i still can’t help but feel pain over the way things just continue to fall apart. it’s heartbreaking. but apparently, that’s just the way it has to be.
i’m glad you’re in such a great place! there’s nothing like everything falling into step like that.
October 30, 2010 at 12:41 pm
Aww. I’m sorry things are tough in the ex department right now, but seems you are working on it and want to get there. Hopefully you can. Xo!
October 31, 2010 at 8:43 am
I agree…it’s exactly how I feel about my “old” life…I would never want to be there again, but I don’t regret it. How could I? It got me my babies, and where I needed to be. It took awhile but finally … I realized just that and I’ve been happy ever since
And I wish for you to stay happy too *hugs*
October 31, 2010 at 2:39 pm
Exactly! No regrets, right? I wish you longevity in happiness too!!
November 1, 2010 at 8:43 am
Tears instantly, thanks alot!
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November 1, 2010 at 9:05 am
no tears!! Aww
November 12, 2010 at 9:22 pm
I’ve never heard that song before, but I love the poignant lyrics. Although I wish that you didn’t have to go through a painful divorce, you *are* exactly where you are meant to be now
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November 13, 2010 at 9:50 am
LOVE this song, I just came across it and it stuck.