Who *am* I?
It’s so tough to capture “me” in words (sort of like writing about what you look for in a mate on match.com or any other dating site!) because while I know who I am, defining myself for the purposes of this blog has been really hard to wrap my head around.
Probably because I’ve changed a lot since I first put pen to paper blog a year and a half ago (February 2009) and 600 posts later.
But, here goes, my take on “who I am” -
I’m 31 and divorced (almost) two years counting. But that doesn’t define me (anymore).
I started this blog in February 2009 with the goal of chronicling my pending divorce (which occurred on September 11, 2009, after being separated since October 2008), and since then, it has morphed into my haven. For sharing my thoughts on what has gotten me through divorce, my mantra for choosing happiness, gaining (and keeping) perspective on life, challenges, self, and love, as well as my two-year journey towards finding love (again). This is my story, picking up the pieces of my heart, redefining myself, shaping my life into what it is today, and determining what it is I want in a relationship and a man.
I am happy, strong, confident, motivated, self-aware and willing to take chances. Why? Because life is too short for regrets and what’if’s. This is my life. Determined.
To Be Determined. I’ve conquered the sadness and pain, determined to move forward. To Be Determined…my life, anew. Now? To Be Determined, where will I go next? TBD…
(note: some helpful links to read my backstory can be found here or under “some of my favorites” where I include a series on the beginning of the end of my marriage.
What do you think?
November 24, 2010 at 11:08 am
LOVE it.
November 24, 2010 at 11:11 am
LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE it!!
November 24, 2010 at 11:17 am
I like it! It really does seem to sum up the Jolene I’ve come to know through your blog!
November 24, 2010 at 11:20 am
Love it! Very refreshing
November 24, 2010 at 11:29 am
Sounds great to me!
November 24, 2010 at 11:47 am
What a beautiful post! Really enjoy reading your blog.
November 24, 2010 at 6:10 pm
Thanks Susan, Marisa, Shannon, LBTD, Jess and NYSoonerGirl! Glad you like the changes
November 24, 2010 at 11:59 am
yep – sounds about right! good use of the dual meaning of “determined,” too.
i changed my blurb the other day, too. it started because i got to drop the “soon-to-be” from the “lawyer” part once i passed the bar.
i also realized that i’ve already changed so much in the past 10 months that the original one didn’t fit anymore.
it’s evolution, baby.
November 24, 2010 at 6:11 pm
Thanks! Glad you like my super duper dual meaning to ‘determined’ – wicked smahht right?
Evolution, so right. Bring it on!
November 24, 2010 at 12:23 pm
YES!!! Isn’t it fun to capture your growth in a blog?!
November 24, 2010 at 6:11 pm
It REALLY is!! I love it!
November 24, 2010 at 2:47 pm
Who are you? Someone whose blog just hit 100K visitors. As of this comment: 100,072 hits. Congrats on a swoontastic blog!
November 24, 2010 at 6:12 pm
Whoa! So indeed! Wow, that’s amazing. I can’t believe it. Thanks for pointing it out my bloggy friend
Swoontastic!
November 24, 2010 at 7:01 pm
You and I started blogging at the same time…during the same month and everything! Look how far we’ve come!
November 24, 2010 at 7:03 pm
Whoa! Really?! that’s awesome! I had no idea! Good thing Shannon told me about your blog when I met her at BISC (wish you were there!). That’s so cool!
November 25, 2010 at 5:28 am
Sounds AWESOME!!
November 26, 2010 at 8:57 am
thank you!
November 25, 2010 at 9:09 am
I’ve been part of a “we” for so long I don’t know when the last time I considered the question “who am I”. As I consider the question I’m sure my answer will not be with the same eloquence and openness as yours. Nicely done.
November 26, 2010 at 8:55 am
wow, thank you so much for the visit and the compliment. It does take time to become the “I” you may have lost. But have faith that it will happen!
November 29, 2010 at 8:47 pm
I think we all need to stop and consider this sometimes. I hate losing myself, and I will never let it happen again. I think I am the real me now. I intend on keeping in that way. This is your story…love it!
November 29, 2010 at 8:50 pm
Absolutely! Never lose yourself…once you do it once, you’ll never do it again. Such a great lesson to learn in hindsight, isn’t it?
December 2, 2010 at 11:48 am
[...] to transition this blog into a new one. With a new name, a new look, and reflecting the “me” I am [...]
December 3, 2010 at 12:11 am
It’s perfect!
I especially love this part:
I am happy, strong, confident, motivated, self-aware and willing to take chances. Why? Because life is too short for regrets and what’if’s. This is my life. Determined.
YES!!! xoxo