February 2009

In my case, it’s completely normal.

It’s very hard to explain, but Pete and I have become very amicable through all of this. At first, it was hard for me, and I wanted to see him, but then would be sad when he left, but it’s slowly turned into something indescribably (is that a word?!) normal. We’re evolving into the friendship stage quicker than I thought (it’s only been four months or so since it all began, though it feels like a lifetime of change from then til now, to be honest) and it’s working out pretty good.

Of course, time will tell, but I am entering a stage of peace with things, and am feeling pretty good about it. I think the worst is behind me, and I’m entering the healing/re-defining stage, a stage I think I’ll be in for awhile, and seeing Pete and feeling normal about it is a great sign for me and I’m really happy about it.


I’m going to start quote Fridays for quickie posts…today’s quote is all about perspective. I actually have this quote taped to my laptop at work:

“I am good, I am better than good, I am the best. There’s no limit to show who I am.”

I taped that to my laptop for days when work had me down, and my confidence was lacking. Now, ironically, I feel more confident at work and feel the quote most represents who I am, as a woman, and what I have to offer – some day – to a future partner in life.

So, this quote is about perspective – it’s all in how you look at things in life, and instead of this life change being something negative, I am trying my best to see it as something positive, because I firmly believe everything happens for a reason.

Came across this fantastic quote today and just had to use it for my special sisters post. My sisters – we are triplets – and we are extremely close. During our childhood, I was probably closer to one of my sisters than the other (the identical one), but as we’ve aged, I think we have all gotten equally close and have really grown to love each other effortlessly and wholly, and appreciate the special bond that only we have.

With that said, my sisters have been amazing through all of this. They have both coped with this along with me, in different ways. For example, my fraternal sister and I have really bonded over long phone calls (she doesn’t live that close by, unfortunately!) and fun shopping trips and lunch – nothing like a little retail therapy, right? She’s been really great and is an excellent listener.  She also spent Thanksgiving with me instead of going with her husband to see his family – it was a really hard decision for her to make and she made it for me, and for that, I am ever grateful, because that was the first holiday, pretty close after everything happened and I really needed her, and she came through in spades. And it was a fantastic day spent with mom and grandparents and two very adorable doggies.

My identical sister (and brother in law), who was especially close with Pete, has really taken me under her wing and become very protective in a way, which I never expected. She’s made sure I am not alone – without it really looking like she’s checking up on me (haha), and is even trying to get me into running, to keep me occupied (riiiight!). She’s been my sounding board, too, which I have needed. Not to mention my brother in law – who has been just as supportive and we’ve gotten pretty close these past few months.

So sisters really are the chocolate chips in the cookies of life – the best part! I love them so much and thank God every day for them. We share the same hearts, thoughts, humor and lives. XOXO

This is, hands down, my favorite quote.

It’s funny because, when life is good, and all is right with the world, it’s easy to see quotes like this and think, yes, you should love your life, no matter what. It’s when life tests you that you see quotes like that and think yeah, right, easier said than done.

I started to go down that negative slope a bit at first, when things were really tough, and I just felt like my life was over, but as I sat back, I realized that God may be testing me, but my life is not over, it’s just shifting into a new path in life, and once I started thinking of this phase of my life as a sort of reinvention, I started to embrace the changes in my life a little bit more. Sure, it’s taken time and it’s still a tough road ahead, I am feeling hopeful, and sometimes all you need is a little hope to get you through.

I stumbled across this poem about a month ago and find it very inspiring – for anyone, not just those going through divorce. It says a lot about being determined and never giving up, no matter what life hands you. Goes hand-in-hand with a lot of what Joel Osteen preaches about, too, which I love.

I am including the poem below, but you can also find it here, if you want to print it for yourself!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

As I mentioned in a previous post, my grandparents have been unbelievably supportive. They turned me on to a minister out of Houston – Joel Osteen – who is absolutely fantastic. He’s very inspirational and really hits home for me. He has a program I watch on Sunday nights as I prepare for the week ahead. It really helps set my mood and refocus for the week ahead.

I’m reading his book “Living your best life now” (an excerpt of which can be read here). It’s all about living life to your fullest potential and a huge part of that is redefining your mindset. There are seven steps to living your best life now, and they include: enlarging your vision, developing a healthy self image, discovering the power of your thoughts and words, letting go of the past, finding strength through adversity, living to give, and finally, choosing to be happy.

I’m only in the self-image section of the book, but already, it’s been eye opening on so many levels. I highly recommend it!

Favorite line from Lilo and Stich (and, even though you’d think Hawaii would now make me sad, I am still obsessed with Hawaii and secretly want to be Hawaiian!). Family means everything and mine has been unbelievably supportive through all of this, and what has surprised me – not extremely negative towards Pete or anything, which has been very helpful, so I can make my own decisions and not feel like anyone is bad-mouthing anyone.

My grandparents have been very sweet and supportive. They call me often, pray for me, and tell me about good TV programs to watch (Joel Osteen, a minister, with a program on TBN) – more on that in a later post – and are just very supportive. I’ve never felt more supported in my life or more grateful for everyone in my family.

…especially my sisters. I’m a triplet and we are very close, and they’ve been my rock. Again, more on them later.

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