Divorced. Past tense. There you have it. Well, that was certainly a surreal experience. As today is quote Friday, I wanted to use something that captures the last 10+ months, and this one fits the bill, because it also feels like it could be my anthem, if I were to ever have one
“Someday everything will make perfect sense. So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.”
While divorce never quite makes sense, the “someday” part is here…after going through all of the pain, confusions and sadness, and emerging on the other side a happier, stronger, more confident, observant, faithful woman, I wouldn’t change what happened for the world. And I know that probably still sounds a bit strange, but I wouldn’t. Just walking into the courthouse with Pete (since, did I mention, he wanted to drive together to the courthouse? Strange, yes, but apparently, not so strange for us!) today, I felt like I was the leader, I was taking change, and he was following. I’m struck by how not different he is, and as I’ve mentioned before, that’s the part that is dissapointing, because I have learned so much from this, but I still don’t think he has learned much from it, or really still knows WHY he did it. But that’s for him to figure out, not me, I am settled with it, I am at peace with it, and I am content. Blissfully content. Because I know everything happens for a reason and God is watching over me and this was written as part of my journey in life, and I feel I’ve conquered it successfully and proven my faith to God, and to myself, through all of this. I feel empowered and incredibly happy right now.
And I can’t wait to celebrate with some good friends tonight for a very fun weekend ahead, and I thank all of my close friends and family for all of their support, because without you, I would never have made it. You are everything to me, and I love you all!
…today is where my book begins, the rest is still unwritten.”
September 11, 2009 at 2:59 pm
Can I help publicize your “book” someday please 😉 Seriously, cheers to new beginnings, it’s only up from here sister xoxo
September 11, 2009 at 11:19 pm
Congratulations – it’s a milestone worth celebrating. Now you can truly start the next phase of your life. Have a great evening.
September 12, 2009 at 2:05 pm
thank you so much!!
December 21, 2009 at 6:17 pm
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July 2, 2010 at 1:25 am
hi i’m sorry..
umm i was just wondering where did you find the quote ““Someday everything will make perfect sense. So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.”?
July 2, 2010 at 7:05 am
hi there! I’m actually not sure, I think I may have Googled it?
September 30, 2010 at 10:08 am
“DON’T WORRY ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR PAST, THERE IS A REASON THEY DIDN’T MAKE IT TO YOUR FUTURE!!!… life goes on….
best of luck…
cheers 🙂
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October 3, 2010 at 2:48 am
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October 3, 2010 at 7:24 pm
Well thank you so much!! And thanks for visiting!
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January 26, 2011 at 8:53 am
hello there, great read this quote and all, im going through something similar, 8 months ago we had a discussion and we split up, and ive been trying to get her back since, and at the signs i think she is, she dissapears… when all the magic is still there. Love was never our problem, i dont know what to do anymore… ive been really sad past few days, frustrated, angry… ur quote at least gives me breath and a little life, i was wondering and sorry if this is too personal: why did he go to the courthouse with u? u guys still talk? how did that end up? did it truely end? how long were u guys together? im trying to keep a lilttle hope, not sure if i should or if i should give up… thanx for reading
January 26, 2011 at 7:22 pm
thanks for visiting! Yes, we are still friends, but it did end. It was the best decision for both of us, to be honest, and have the closure I need. I wish you the best with your situation, and if it’s meant to be, it will be.
September 27, 2011 at 10:45 pm
I’ve read that quote before and it has touched me before, but…everything that you added to it is simply…wow.
My mother also went through a divorce and I’ve seen only half of the struggles she goes through to keep things together. But I also know that she is the strongest, most amazing person I know. I felt almost like I was reading her words!
I have so much respect for you!! Keep it up, keep your head up high, and keep smiling! 🙂
April 12, 2012 at 1:28 am
To new beginnings!
August 12, 2012 at 8:02 pm
I came across this posting tonight while searching for the quote in the beginning of your post. As I continued reading it, I couldn’t help but feel like I myself was writing it. Every piece and word fit so perfectly into my life. Driving to court for my divorce to be finalized with my now ex husband and father of my child, I felt like for the first time in many years I was happy and excited to see what life had in store for me in the future. Thank you for sharing your strength and story. It touched my heart, as I am still struggling to find my happiness.