I had sort of a frustrating day today, all around, and to top it off, the snowy commute home was sort of the nail in the “grumpy pants” coffin.

And then I watched this week’s Joel Osteen sermon and two powerful, yet very simple messages came jumping out at me and sort of crystallized a few things to me, personally, and more holistically, in life, in general.

The first – if it works out, great, and if it doesn’t, no big deal.

What was Joel talking about? Goals and wants. If they don’t come to fruition – for example, if that man doesn’t enter your life or the man IN your life isn’t the right fit, then that’s okay, because the right one is out there.

Why did this resonate?

After date #1 with CBE, I came away from it with optimism, looking forward to a potential date #2. And I got so much positive feedback – both “blog” and “real” friends/family – for taking the chance with the “older” guy, and in fairness, also words of “wisdom” making sure I’m doing what I’m doing for the right reasons. And, I am. I’m just following my gut, seeing what happens, not getting overly wrapped up, but still having optimism, because that’s who I am. But optimism doesn’t mean rose-colored glasses, it doesn’t mean I’m jumping in with both feet, it just means I’m exploring it. Neither end of the spectrum – just playing the middle road.

So…if it works out and there’s something there, great, and if it doesn’t, no big deal. It wasn’t meant to happen if that’s the case. And I’m totally okay with that. I’m comfortable with that, and I hope that comes through in conversations with friends and family on the topic of my dating life, and with my blog friends. I know I open myself up to plenty of advice and comments either way just by the fact that I post it on here in the first place, so I’m prepared for that, but I just thought that message tied in so well to what I’m feeling today. I’m grooving along, but I’m not just going after anyone, and I’m not going for convenience, I’m just living my life, seeing what’s out there.

And the second message – release your goals and wants – yeah, that’s right.

This message is so powerful to me, because of how difficult it is to do.


Know that it will happen if and when it’s supposed to. Any goal, any dream, any want. Joel says:

“Don’t hold on too tightly to it- release it – turn it over to God. Don’t live your life frustrated because it  hasn’t happened. Trust His timing, know that He knows what’s best for you. And even if it doesn’t happen, be happy. Live and enjoy your life, don’t live your life upset, release the frustration, release the worry and come to that place of peace.”

That is so difficult to do – to just let it go, know that what’s meant to happen will, and be at peace with it if it doesn’t. I just had a frustrating work day, and sometimes struggle with “what I want to be when I grow up” – where I want to be in 5 years, 10 and beyond. But then I realize that I can’t always look so far ahead, and get ahead of myself. I need to deal the hand I’ve been dealt, do the best I can do, and trust that He has a plan for me. I’m going to release it, trust that it will happen when it’s supposed to. And you know what? I already feel more peaceful and less anxious thinking about.

I’ll leave you with Joel’s closing, which again, so simply sums it up, and is something I think we can all probably relate to, in one way or another:

Don’t let frustration steal your joy. Life is too short waiting to be happy. Enjoy your life right now. You don’t need those other things to be happy, you can be happy right where you are.