Introduce a boy to anyone in my family or among my friends.
And before you think I’m rushing or jumping ahead, or jumping to conclusions (for that matter!), I don’t necessarily mean now, or all at once, whenever that day does perhaps come (like how many caveats were in that there statement?!).
I just mean…well, I think CBE is the first guy I’ve actually felt has the potential for that to possibly warrant (again with the caveats – ha – I sound like such a committment-phobe!) meeting anyone close to me.
And, I’m not gonna lie, it’s scary and exciting all at once, and also comes with my own fair share of doubts and fears.
Am I jumping ahead?
Am I jinxing it?
Am I rushing?
Is this what I want?
My answer to those questions? yes, hope not, don’t think so, and yes.
Wow, I just wrote yes to that last question – that was sort of a stream of consciousness exercise for me, wasn’t it? I’m talking to myself in my blog, aren’t I? Clearly this is helping me realize what is going on in my head, and I’m obviously up to my overthinking ways, somewhat for good reason and somewhat because well, it’s just how I am (live with it!).
I guess I’m starting to come to this conclusion for a few reasons – the biggest being that I really do like him, and as I noted in my last blog recapping our date (hyperlinked above), it’s starting to feel different, beyond just attraction and chemistry. Other reasons? We’ve been seeing each other weekly for almost a month, and we’ve been actually planning ahead, which says to me, that things are getting a little more consistent and steady.
We’re going to Restaurant Week in Boston in a couple of weeks, and we’re going to see one of my absolute favorite comedians in April (Bob Marley – the funniest New England-based comedian e-VER!), and at the end of April? CBE scored tickets to George Lopez, which should also be a blast (and, he scored tix to both shows with his brother and sister in-law as well – so that also signals something to me!).
So, I ‘spose it warrants doing something I haven’t done since oh, 1999?!
We’ll see…when that happens, how it happens, and reactions to that happening – stay tuned (but I guarantee it won’t be for at least a few more weeks, at least, in my opinion).
Ack. (that’s a good ack, if you’re wondering).
March 10, 2010 at 8:03 pm
Jolene, the wheels are rolling forward and picking up a little speed. I am so happy for you π -Pipi
March 10, 2010 at 8:12 pm
Aw thank you Pippi!
March 10, 2010 at 8:21 pm
I can’t even imagine trying to introduce a new beau to my family. My sister has finally ventured into dating (one guy) and I know she’s not exactly gung-ho on the idea of introducing the guy to our parents. Heck, I haven’t even met him yet!
March 10, 2010 at 8:23 pm
I know, it seems so nerve-wracking, especially after so long!! Thus, the overthinking π Sisters are the first you want them to meet, but also the ones I’m most nerve-wracked about π
March 11, 2010 at 8:47 am
LOL, forget daddy with shotgun, it’s the overly protective sis you gotta worry about!
March 10, 2010 at 8:23 pm
I wanna meet him, I promise to be nice π Love you sis and glad you are happy!
March 10, 2010 at 8:25 pm
Love you too sis – and of course, you and Jess would obviously be the first, you are the ones I want “approval” on most of all π XOXO.
March 10, 2010 at 8:36 pm
You know just how I feel about this whole thang, but for the record, if/when I do meet CBE, you better be prepared for me to say ‘ello Cap’n! π in all seriousness though, I’m loving this and think you’ve been very smart with a mix of “why not?” thrown in which just rocks! Go you!! Xoxo
March 10, 2010 at 8:50 pm
thanks sis – no pressure or anything…jeesh π
March 11, 2010 at 5:53 am
Looks like we’ll be going through a lot of this at the same time. Sam is going with me to visit my mom and aunt at the beach in a few weeks. He met my mother last year, sort of. It’s somehow different when you are meeting your mother-in-law…you know? So, they are going to re-meet. And he’s never met my aunt,who will be there. I’m excited and nervous. It’s important. It matters.
We’ll have to compare notes. Can’t wait to hear how it all turns out for you. So glad to see that things are progressing nicely. You deserve this. Big hugs!
March 11, 2010 at 9:20 am
Yes, we shall compare notes – whenever that may happen π hugs back atcha Nicki!!
March 11, 2010 at 8:35 am
Don’t worry Ollie, when the time is right and you’re ready to introduce him (and HE is ready to be introduced!), it will be natural and normal. Have I said how excited I am to see you all glowy and gushy in person!?! : )
March 11, 2010 at 9:20 am
LOL Ames, you’re so cute – glowy and gushy, I’ll make sure to contain myself π
March 11, 2010 at 10:04 am
Jo-
Do it!There is really no downside to meeting friends and family!
March 11, 2010 at 10:09 am
thanks Meg – we’ll see – I probably will, but it’s just a matter of “when” π
March 11, 2010 at 11:30 am
Good for you!! I would wait until you’ve been dating at least a few months to introduce him to family, it’s good to take your time with that. Friends are not such a big deal.
Any time I introduce people to my family they start nagging me about babies and it freaks me out. Plus, I always feel like a schmuck in the end if it doesn’t work out.
I had something else to say too, but I lost it. Oh well. Really glad you’re happy with this new guy!
March 11, 2010 at 12:38 pm
Thanks! Yea, I know, I don’t want to full-on introduce anyone till it’s been awhile, thus part of my reason for the hemming and hawing! π
March 11, 2010 at 1:09 pm
Well you know my thoughts on this and why I’ve been scared to intro people. I’m just saying – I can’t wait to meet him!
March 11, 2010 at 2:05 pm
That is exciting! Good Ack indeed!
Your post reminded me that my brother & family are going to meet K this weekend– if all goes as planned, of course. I hadn’t really thought of it as a big deal, but I probably should!
March 11, 2010 at 2:54 pm
Woo, big doins’ this weekend Snark, very cool! Keep us posted on how it goes – and good luck!! π Good ack to you π
March 11, 2010 at 4:49 pm
been there done that…meeting the family was nerve wrecking. But they all liked my guy and just want me to be happy. Personally I’m glad it’s over with. Good luck to you. And I “over” think the same exact way. Must be in our DNA cause I’ve tried not being that way too to no avail. So now I’m rolling with it too!
March 11, 2010 at 4:59 pm
Thanks Livvy! It’s hard not to overthink stuff like this. I’d never want to do it prematurely, so we’ll see. For me, it may be still too soon, but I’ll probably have a better feel for it next week or two! I need to roll with it a little more, taking your advice!
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