I’ve had a frustrating day and it’s made me want to just give up, curl up in a ball, and hide.

And then I opened my blog to start a rant of a post, and realized…well, that’s not really being determined as is plastered all over my blog, now, is it?

I can’t give up. I can’t let it paralzye me. I MUST push forward, work through it, and grow because of it. So that’s what I’m going to do, dammit.


Now that I got my mini-rant/pep-talk out of the way, another reason I’m being determined?

Tomorrow, KICKS off our Group Kick training!! It’s going to be an intense 25 hours of training over the course of Friday/Saturday/Sunday and I cannot wait. It’s going to be difficult, it’s going to be a challenge, I’m going to be way out of my comfort zone, but I’m ready, I’m DETERMINED, and I’ll be posting my thoughts on how it goes (as will my sister!), through the weekend. Wish me luck…and seriously, who IS this person?!

wings-of-freedom-thumb1894625Wow, what a difference a day makes, and some more perspective. After last night’s post and series of events, I was drained, utterly exhausted. I was stressed, agonizing over what to do about the house, and feeling like there was no end in sight. Fast forward to today and meeting with a real estate agent that specializes in short sales. Now, I went into this feeling like this was still not the right decision and even after leaving the meeting, I was still pretty adamant. And then I thought about it, I drove home, I sat in the yard, by myself, thinking and thinking over dinner. It was very peaceful and I felt clear-headed and not driven by emotion. And I realized – all signs are pointing to this being the right decision for me – I kept fighting it because it seems so wrong and so risky, but with all of the factors I have to weigh, I think it’s the right decision, believe it or not.

And then I checked my email. My weekly newsletter from Anthony Fernando was in my inbox and it was all about minimizing regret:

Often we become paralyzed by analyzing the possible outcomes of a decision and in doing so we waste a great deal of time and mental energy. If you have ever agonized over a decision until you were physically and mentally exhausted you will know exactly what I mean.

A useful strategy to help you make decisions is the concept of regret minimalization.

The aim of regret minimalization is to reduce the number of decisions in life that you end up looking back on with regret.

The steps to using regret minimalization are as follows:

  1. Project yourself into the future and visualize yourself at the age of 80
  2. Imagine that you are looking back on your life
  3. Ask yourself which of the options you are trying to decide between will you be more likely to regret missing out on?

When I read that, I thought, wow, this is it. I need to do this. I have prayed a lot and asked God to guide me through the right decision, and all signs are pointing to this…and so, let the journey begin. It’ll be scary, it’ll have ups and downs, but I need to do what is right for me, and get out of the house, and move on and up. Wish me luck and blessings…I know I’ll need it.

Last night’s episode of Joel Osteen’s sermon was great – and I was feeling really optimistic. Key word – WAS. An excerpt, and then I’ll explain the “was” part:

God always finishes what He starts in our lives; He will always take us from Friday to Sunday. The Fridays in life are our darkest hours when it seems like the end. But just like Christ was resurrected from the grave on Sunday, God desires to resurrect our lives, our marriages, finances, healthy families and dreams.

I’m really trying to stay optimistic and not let this situation break me down, but the more we look into our options for selling our under-water home, the worse things look, and the longer and harder the process and outlook look. I feel like I am inching towards my Friday – my darkest hour – when I thought I was past that dark time. The pain and sadness of divorce is gone, but now, the pain and frustration of trying to deal with our screwed up mortgage system is really wearing me down. I know I need to just put my trust and faith in God, knowing He will come through for me, but it’s hard. I know I’ll get through it, but it’s just one of those days.  Deep breaths, baby steps, family and friends support and God will get me through, I just have to keep reminding myself of that.

I just finished reading “Your Best Life Now” and came away with a mindset shift, above all else, because that really is what living your best life now is all about – changing your habits – emotionally and spiritually – and realizing that we need to live for today, not for tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. We need to stay close to God, cherish our blessings and “pay it forward” to those around us.

The last chapter in the book is called “Happiness is a choice” and it couldn’t have resonated any more than reading this chapter! Though it sounds easy enough, to decide to be happy, it’s really a lot easier said than done. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve fallen into the negativity/unhappiness/angry/grumpy trap, and have seen those around me fall into it as well.

Here’s a quick excerpt I particularly liked: “Many people live in constant turmoil. They’re always upset, frustrated, having some kind of major challenge that’s keeping them from being happy. They can’t sleep at night, they’re too worried, they don’t like the people they work with, they get aggravated over the smallest things. When something doesn’t go their way, they get bent out of shape and lose their cool. It’s important that we know how to live a life of peace. If we’re going to do that, we need to be flexible and willing to make some adjustments. When things happen that normally would bother us, we have to put a foot down and say, no, I’m not going to let that take away my peace, I am going to rule over my emotions and I’m not going to allow myself to get upset and aggravated. I’m going to choose to be happy.”

It’s so true! How easy is to to let the little things at work perturbe you and let it fester all day until you are just grumpy to no end? Or frustratation with something turns to anger and sours your mood? Happens all the time and we end up in a cycle of “can’t waiting…” for the weekend, for this project to be over, to be happy again, or whatever the case may be. This is a huge reminder to me that life IS short, and we really need to find the little things in our day to be happy about, to realize why we are here doing what we are doing, and not float through life unhappy. It is easier said than done, but I’m a big fan of one day at a time, one step at a time and know I can change my bad habits into good ones. How about you?