Lauren, over at My Life, Complete “dedicated” this song to me on Twitter (so cute!) after we’d discussed Leona Lewis’ “Happy” and how inspiring those lyrics are, and I have to say, Toby Mac’s words in “Get Back Up” are amazing and spoke even more volumes to me that while it may be okay to fall down, it’s ‘never too late to get back up again.’

It also sprung to mind a timeless quote from one of my favorite movies (don’t laugh!) – Van Wilder:

Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.

As simplistic as that sounds, it couldn’t be more true and it just comes to mind as part of my own struggles with the daily stresses of life (money, or lack thereof, Group Kick, work, and yes, dating) and how sometimes, you just gotta let it go and realize that worrying, stressing and agonizing about things – especially those out of your control – get you nowhere, and they just add more stress to life, and completely engulf your mind and psyche to the point where you lose sight of what’s important, and lose sight of living life…it’s meant to be lived, and not stressed over/through, bottom line, right?

So, give this song a listen, and maybe take to heart some of the words here, and the notion of worrying for worry’s sake, stress for stress’s sake and agonizing for agony’s sake just aren’t worth it, in many cases, because it usually doesn’t even change or affect the outcome of whatever it is you are stressing about in the first place.

(and, quick shout-out to a fellow Kick-er who has started her own blog – she’s awesome, give her a read!)


Ahhh…finnnaallly Friday – what a long week (I swear, the week post-vaca is always super long and super stressful!). For today’s quote Friday, I came across an awesome quote that is exactly what I am feeling right now:

“Life is what you make it now. So let us put our energies into life.”

The here and now. Not yesterday, not tomorrow, just right now. I am learning more and more not to get ahead of myself, stress about the future, or what I cannot control and just enjoy where I am right now. This minute. I’ve had a great week – despite the aforementioned work stress (lol) and am feeling really good about the latest challenge I’ve laid out for myself.

What’s funny as I write these weekly inspirational quote-themed posts, is that when I was at my lowest point, I would laugh sarcastically, snicker almost, at those spouting off inspirational quotes, because I was thinking to myself – sure, it’s easy to feel inspired and happy in the moment when things are going well, but when they aren’t (such as the huge blow of losing what I felt was my entire being, my heart being ripped out of my soul), those inspirations go out the window along with confidence, optimism and strength. But I am proving that it IS possible to feel inspired even during life’s low points and challenges. It can happen, you just need to find the strength, trust in God and pull strength and courage from your family and friends.

Okay, this is sort of a rambling post, but it’s something I’ve wanted to get out for awhile. I’m putting my energy into life, and living, and happiness, because honestly, what’s the point, otherwise?

Every hear a song on the radio and then REALLY listen to the words? I did that this past weekend with Nickelback’s “If Today Was Your Last Day” and decided to look up the lyrics – they’re pretty powerful. On a day like today – coming off a fabulous weekend, where I squeezed every last second out of it – and I come back to work feeling mentally bored and sick of my job and wishing I was outside, I caught myself in the trap of “can’t waiting [insert anything non-work-related here]” – this “can’t wait” was for my vacation next week, but as I have posted before, and as I keep reminding myself – life is too short to just “phone it in” when you don’t feel inspired or all that happy with what you are doing.

Some of my favorite lyrics in this song:

If today was your last day
And tomorrow was too late
Could you say goodbye to yesterday?
Would you live each moment like your last?
Leave old pictures in the past
Donate every dime you have?
If today was your last day

Against the grain should be a way of life
What’s worth the prize is always worth the fight
Every second counts ’cause there’s no second try
So live like you’ll never live it twice
Don’t take the free ride in your own life

So do whatever it takes
‘Cause you can’t rewind a moment in this life
Let nothin’ stand in your way
Cause the hands of time are never on your side

Pretty good stuff, right? I also think this particularly pertains to “what if-ing” life – I could what-if my marriage over and over again, until I am blue in the face – but you can’t rewind life, so beyond learning from the past, there’s no sense wishing you had done something differently (except to maybe do it differently the next time around) or living in the past. My two cents for tonight.

I did it. I made my very first attempt at grilling all by myself. And I didn’t singe my eyebrows, or burn the chicken, or set anything on fire.


Now, this may not seem like a big deal, but I’ve never grilled before, as Pete always did that. And, since I LOVE the grill, I really wanted to learn to grill. Today was my first attempt and it was a huge success – delicious grilled barbecue chicken! I feel like a “big girl” now. Again, it may be strange to some, but this feels like yet another big step for me in being self-sufficient and really being on my own.

Go me, go me, go me 😉

Today’s quote Friday folks and here’s my quote for today: “only when we are no longer afraid, do we begin to live.”

I could go in a zillion directions on this one, but this one struck me today, as I took the day off. By myself. That may not sound like a big deal, but before, I hated being alone or doing things on my own so I would never take a day off unless I had something planned, or Pete had the day off or someone in my family had the day off etc. I don’t know why, I just didn’t want to be alone, even if the day off would be useful for getting errands done, which is usually an “alone” activity anyway.

Can I tell you a secret? I am LOVING the day off by myself! I mean, I’ve done some errands and things like that, but I am enjoying the peacefulness of sitting on the couch, with a good book, one of my kitties by my feet, just relaxing. I never thought I would come to appreciat this…especially when we were first talking about divorce. First thing that popped into my head – oh my God, I hate being alone, what am I going to do? And slowly, as the days turned into weeks, and the weeks have turned into months, I have gradually started to like being alone.

So, this quote really speaks to that – not letting silly fears (or even big, warranted fears) hold you back, live each day, enjoy it, because you only live once.

So, this is sort of a fun post for a cold Sunday, snow on the way (argh!). Here’s my list of pros and cons to living alone – don’t get me wrong, I would rather NOT live alone, but here are a few things I have learned the last few months on what I actually like about it and a few of the things I don’t like.


  1. Can leave the bathroom door open 😉
  2. Cleaning is faster, just my own mess, which isn’t a lot
  3. Making veggies he didn’t like – asparagus, yum! LOL
  4. Less junkfood in the house, less temptation!


  1. sleeping alone – still hate it and leave a light on
  2. not sleeping well, ever, really
  3. kitties nag me for a midnight snack and I give in – he would have tossed them out of the room, but I don’t have the heart!
  4. SHOVELING SNOW!!! (though, in his defense, he’s come by to help during big storms)
  5. taking out the trash and recycling. Hate it.
  6. Bringing in the groceries (ok, I was spoiled in this department!)

So, there are a few pros and a few cons – hopefully the pros list increases and the cons start decreasing soon! Overall, though, I think I’ve done better at coping with living alone than I initially thought.