Re-reading my interview with Andrea Syrtash from yesterday (which, I am still uber-geeking out about, because it was a great interview, and she retweeted my tweet and said my blog was fab – um, how cool is that, seriously?!), there are so many points that I absolutely love that she makes.
But my main – and biggest – takeaway from her comments is about releasing.
Release “the type” in your head.
Release what they may “look” like.
Release (generic) ‘must-haves’ (as in, good job, driven, etc, be more specific).
Release…looking.
That last one always gets me….because I know I need to let go of this feeling of control I think I need (or I think I have, for that matter) to find love. I guess the phrase ‘find love’ is almost an oxymoron of sorts because you don’t really ‘find’ love, do you? It finds you…you just become…in love. When it’s meant to happen. Not on your own timeframe. Not when it’s convenient. Not when you think it’s supposed to happen.
When it’s meant to.
As in, not-in-my-control.
Being Type A, that’s a tough one for me to accept, but on the other, it feels a little like a relief. Just live. Just enjoy. And when it’s meant to, it’ll happen.
Whether it’s ‘organic,’ whether it’s online…it just doesn’t matter, but I feel good knowing that it’ll happen. I take comfort in that, because I believe it.
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It’s funny, as I was sitting at dinner tonight with Pete on my patio, I was looking at him and thinking, ‘wow, I was married to him…only a couple of years ago, yet it feels like forever.” I was sort of flashing through our relationship in my head, as we talked about various things, and it made me feel happy that we shared a great thing for so long, and we still do, yet differently. I don’t see him “that” way anymore without a shadow of a doubt, and that’s okay, it’s not sad, it’s not ‘weird,’ it just is. Releasing…in a way…and knowing that whenever I fall in love again, that he’ll be supportive of me (and I of him). And that, to me, is amazing.
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And a comment BDFF said to me today was this…and it’s a moment I want to capture and remember and thought you’d all enjoy reading it too:
Life is too short to wake up with regrets.. So love the people who treat you right.. Forget about the ones who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
June 30, 2010 at 7:40 pm
Seriously love the quote. Fantastic.
June 30, 2010 at 7:55 pm
isn’t it? I love it!
June 30, 2010 at 8:58 pm
Every time I come here, I learn something more. You are an amazing woman…someone who I know for sure will meet the right one soon enough. Thanks for giving us so much daily. oxo
July 1, 2010 at 5:52 am
Wow, I am touched…thank you so much! You are so sweet, and I thank you for having faith that I’ll meet the right one soon! ๐
June 30, 2010 at 11:30 pm
releasing control. one of my biggest challenges. i had that point driven home to me in a particularly blunt way the other weekend by someone who knows that well. it’s good to read this; you’re 100% right, i can’t engineer everything in my life, no matter how much i want to. some things just… well, they just are.
July 1, 2010 at 5:53 am
engineer – great word to use, that’s sort of how I feel I am going about it, in a sense, and if I release that and just let it go a little – ok, a lot! – maybe that will help. I’m willing to try anything at this point, and I firmly believe it is the right way to go. Glad you could relate to this as well.
July 1, 2010 at 12:12 am
Seriously, it’s the whole control thing I have issue with and am trying to ‘release’! Baby steps for this Mama. Totally heart that quote at the end…thanks for sharing the moment!
July 1, 2010 at 5:53 am
Yes, the control is SO HARD to let go. I won’t lie, it’s not going to be easy for me to do and I may “cheat” here and there, but I am going to TRY not to do and just RELEASE. Baby steps together?!
July 1, 2010 at 6:08 am
Yeah, us type ‘A’s have a huge problem with allowing, releasing control…
I have faith in you!
July 1, 2010 at 9:03 am
thanks friend! Totally hard to “allow” – damn us Type A’ers… ๐
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…but what if I like the look? lol
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